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I am terrible at breaking up with people

Let’s face it, breakups suck. I’m not good at dumping people because I hang onto the relationship more than I should. I want to salvage it but sometimes they’re not salvageable. I just feel so bad when I hurt someone’s feelings. I mean, unless you’re a total sociopath you don’t deserve to be hurt like that. And I despise causing people pain because I have so much empathy for people even though they probably don’t deserve it sometimes. Anyway, people usually end up breaking up with me and it sucks. So when that happens I need to process that loss and breaking up with somebody- it’s sort of like dying. Whether I feel like I’m dying or I feel like the other person died because we will no longer be together. It is excruciatingly painful and I don’t wish that pain on my worst enemy.

However we need to move through this pain in order to heal and meet somebody that is better for us. Because breakups happen for a reason; people feel like they are not compatible anymore or something is dysfunctional
in the relationship. So we move on and we find a partner that understands us and their shit is compatible with our shit. We all have dysfunction and flaws and it’s about finding the person who can put up with your idiosyncrasies.

That human being is out there. But in order to find them you need to go through stages of loss or grief
and be able to heal so that you can move on in a healthy way and find the right individual for you. I know that doesn’t sound comforting
right now but I promise you you will get through this. I’ve gotten through breakups many times and they suck but c’est la vie.

Are you going through a breakup right now? Are you terrible breaking up with people or can you easily cut them loose. Let me know what your story is and maybe you can give me some tips the next time I have to dump somebody.